The Dalai Lama is quoted saying “Don’t let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.” However, accepting people and their “stuff” can be challenge for many of us. To prepare for today’s show I read several articles about how to be more accepting of people. Before I share the top seven ways I learned to accept others, allow me to clarify what accepting someone is not. It is not:
agreeing with them,
approving of their behavior actions,
waiving your rights to anything, or
attempting to understate the impact upon you.
Pay Attention to your thoughts. Thoughts become things. And we have the opportunity to control what, better yet how we we are thinking about someone. Why replay thoughts that do not feel good, when the opposite is available? Are the the thoughts about this person positive?
Seek the positive and find it. It’s easy to be negative to and see the less attractive parts of the people we encounter. Luckily there is some good in everyone. Once we find it, however hard it may be, focus on it. Where energy goes, energy grows. Therefore, let’s feed energy into the thoughts that make us feel good about people.
Avoid anyone being right or wrong. Everyone’s rights and wrongs are not the same. And who’s to say who’s right or wrong, is the right or wrong? Everyone's right or wrong is dictated by the programming received as a child and any ideology accumulated along the way to now. It is literally inherited. Let that marinate...
Stop judging yourself. The less we judge ourselves, the less we will feel compelled to judge other people. People who are constantly judging others believe that everyone else is judging them, just as much. I believe it is called projecting.
Be present, focusing what is now. It is time to let go of the past, in addition to our attachment to expected outcomes. Whether people really change or not, I will not say. However, I will say if we change how we look at people and things, those people and things will seemingly change.
Step into their shoes. Sometimes accepting others requires us to step out of our own blue suede shoes, in order to see life from the perspective. #theviewfromhere While we are at it, we may as well accept that people may not be able to see things from our point of view either. And that’s okay.
Release the desire to change people. Wanting to change how someone is, is the exact opposite of accepting that person. If you really desire to see change in them, demonstrate this change in your own life.
If the person who is not being accepted is you, remember “a prophet is never excepted by his on town.” I can totally relate to this scripture. It used to hurt my feelings that my family and friends didn’t support my show, my mission, hell my greatness. I had been conditioned that I look funny, talk funny and dress funny by my relatives. I am reprogramming my subconscious mind to believe that I was made perfect in the image of my Creator. Who I am and how I am is just fine and so are you!
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Be happy. Be healthy. Be You!
-Mimi the Motivator